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The Velveteen Principles, A Guide To Becoming Real
by Toni Raiten-D'Antonio
Wisdom taken from the pages of a favorite children's book.
When I was in college, way back in the late 60s, a popular book being passed around was The Velveteen Rabbit. Yes, it is a children's book and yes, I said I was in college. Deep within this simple, classic story of a well loved stuffed rabbit is hidden many basic life truths. It was and is a guide to becoming real, and I absolutely loved this book. As a young woman struggling "to find myself" I found the answers to life's important questions within, or so I felt.
Many years have passed and I came across this recent book put out for adults, called The Velveteen Principles. Well, having still held on to my worn copy of The Velveteen Rabbit, I was naturally curious. I always knew that there was great wisdom deep inside the story of this nursery toy, and this book sheds some light on the underlying truths within the Velveteen Rabbit--truths that can always bear repeating.
For those unfortunate readers who never got a chance to read The Velveteen Rabbit, first published in 1922, the basic story follows the Rabbit as he becomes real. Similar to Pinocchio who wanted to be a real boy, the rabbit wished he fit in with his peers and wanted nothing more than to be special to the boy who owned him. This book delves into the bottom line of the human heart and how each of us only yearns for the same basic things. We too wish for nothing more in life than to be real, to fit in with our peers, and to be loved unconditionally for our true selves by someone else. Everything basically boils down to those innate needs and desires.
The writer, a psychotherapist and a teacher, also brings her own wisdom as a mother and a woman to the principles discussed. She offers up the thought that "becoming Real is the purpose of every kind of psychotherapy. It is living in the moment with the deepest respect for yourself and for others." But, as we know, being truly real is easier said than done. The author tries to gently remind you of the importance of discovering and claiming one’s sense of real. In our rushed, overworked and overloaded lifestyles, we often lose our sense of self and the book tries to gently nudge you back on the original path you might have strayed off from. A great many people lose track of their true talents, desires, and passions and need a wake up call as a reminder. Our society tends to value things like houses, cars, and large salaries, more than it values core behaviors like honesty, sincerity, and kindness.
In Margery Williams's story, the Skin Horse is the shabbiest but the wisest stuffed animal in the nursery. He is so worn from being so loved. Yet the Rabbit recognizes that, though the Skin Horse’s hair has been hugged off, he is innately the happiest toy, and the Rabbit too wants to be that content and happy.
There are twelve Velveteen Principles outlined in this book, guiding the reader back to his true self. Hopefully, they will resonate with you and remind you of not only a favorite childhood story, but your original hopes and dreams when you were first reading it.
For those who enjoy self help type books, you will like this one. For those who remember and liked the Velveteen Rabbit, you will LOVE it.
Title: The Velveteen Principles, A Guide To Becoming Real
Author: Toni Raiten-D'Antonio
Publisher: Health Communications, Inc.
ISBN: 0757302114
Review written by: Janet Miserandino
Reviewer's Rating:9
Reader's Rating: 10.00
Reader's Votes: 2
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