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The Ultimate Thrill Ride: Ten Tips for BDSM Safety

By Joey W. Hill,

There is a growing interest in bondage in the bedroom, and many of my readers are giving it a try in an effort to spice up their sex lives. It’s fun and feels a little bit dangerous, like a roller coaster, right? But you know why a roller coaster is so thrilling? Because deep down you – the rider – know you’re safe, and the designer and operator intend to keep you that way from beginning to end.

Good BDSM practices are the same. The Dominant is both the designer and operator. He or she plans the scene and is ultimately responsible for keeping it safe, sane and consensual, but the submissive has responsibility as well. Just like the passenger on the roller coaster, he or she has to acknowledge and follow a set of basic rules.
I know, I know. You’re already rolling your eyes.

“Let’s get to the fun part. Bring on the flogger and candle wax. Where are those fuzzy handcuffs?”

No argument here, BDSM can be wonderful fun and an over-the-top sexual experience. However, if you care about your partner, you need to realize one very important thing about it. Even the simplest BDSM play can result in serious injury.

That would be a real buzz kill, right? At best, it would ruin the mood you’re trying to create together. At worst, you end up in the ER. One of the guiding acronyms in BDSM is RACK – Risk Aware Consensual Kink. It’s an acknowledgment that there are risks to this kind of play.

Don’t freak out. The great news is that keeping one another safe isn’t hard. It just requires you to pay attention, observe some basic safety tips and make your partner’s well-being your top priority. Which is what we should be doing in a caring relationship anyway, right?

So here we go. This list isn’t exhaustive by any means, but here are ten BDSM safety tips that can help get you in the right mindset:

 
 

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