Marriage After Menopause

It seems, as a woman, when our body changes, we too want change. I have let my husband have his way for 29 years and now I wish he would understand all the emotions I am experiencing. The girls have left home. I have no children to fulfill my time anymore and no grandchildren. So now I want my husband to care about me and want to spend time with me, but he doesn't. He doesn't have a clue what I want, no matter how many times I explain it to him. One problem I have is I married the oldest child who is spoiled and wants his own way. He is so controlling to get what he wants. Today, I am tired of doing all my work at night, when he goes to work, so he won't try to tell me how to do it.

I've been his wife for 29 years and he treats me like I am some child who cannot think for herself. Yes, I've endured two surgeries in two years and needed his help during all that time. I may be facing another surgery. But do I have to have surgery to get him to do something special for me? I hope not.

Today has been an extremely emotional day.

Why can't people ever tell you what you do right instead of always pointing out what you do wrong.

I was trying to shred zucchini in the food processor. That was his suggestion with my arthritis. I have always used a hand shredder in the past. But I didn't do it the way he thought I should and he thought he should show me what I was doing wrong. Wrong move. The whole day went downhill from there. Menopause makes a woman so moody and today has not exactly been my best day.

I try to tell him I need him to encourage me and not always tell me what he thinks I am doing wrong.

So I asked him later had he finally thought of something I could do right. His comment - you ready - was he would enjoy the meal I had prepared for him. After all, I baked a zucchini cake for him. Wrong - I baked it because I had a craving for it for three days and promised my daughter one also. I cooked because that is what I do. So all I do right is cook for him. He cannot see that is about him and not me. I give up. I'm sure this will pass, but it hasn't been the best of days.