Ramona Singer is opening up about realizing her marriage to her husband, Mario Singer, was over last summer after over two decades together.

The Real Housewives of New York star first filed for divorce in January 2014, but they decided to try and work it out even after she found out about his affair with Kasey Dexter. She then found out he kept in contact with Dexter and the marriage ended last August.

“Forgiveness is very important,” she told Page Six. “I forgive [Mario]. Sometimes people just lose their way and you can’t help them find it.”

Their divorce should be finalized this fall and she writes about it in her memoir Life on the Ramona Coaster.

“I realized it was completely over last August,” she said. “Two people need to try to make a relationship work and if you’re both not in it to win it, it’s not going to happen.”

Some of the factors that led to the divorce, besides the affair, was Mario getting insecure with her fame and "turning 60."

She said people “recognizing” her everywhere she goes “bothered him,” musing. “Men like to feel important and it takes a very secure man [to live with that].”

The reality star, who shares daughter Avery with her ex, said she is currently dating but doesn’t want to put a “label” on anything.

“I only know I’ve never looked better,” she said.

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